It’s no secret that I love my tea – loose, bagged, hot, cold… do I need to continue? Tea has long since held the title of being the secret to achieving good health, happiness, and wisdom. In some cultures, it is entirely necessary to set aside time to drink tea every. single. day. Pretty cool, huh? Dostoyevsky and Emerson wrote about tea and some British workplaces have designated “tea breaks.” From the Boston Tea Party to the modern day Tea Partiers, to Alice and the Mad Hatter, tea remains a stronghold in many cultures.
And as tea is a cultural tradition, it’s also a social occasion. Whether you’re among family, friends, strangers, or even by yourself, drinking tea is a time to reflect, become inspired, and refuel your creative juices. And you might drink it while reading, before going to bed, while driving or riding the subway, or even with your meal. I drink a pot of tea at least once a day (sometimes more), and it always gets me thinking.
I have recently begun a journey to achieve my own personal nirvana. I hope this isn’t just a phase because I’m pretty excited about where I’m headed and who I’m becoming. I’ve had several bumps along the way, but I’m finally starting to feel comfortable in my own skin. I’m planning on making small positive changes within myself to affect the bigger picture that is my life. It’s been a work in progress for a few months now, but I think I’m only just now realizing it. And with that…
I want to start the first in my series of Tea Talks – an outlet to create discussion surrounding ideas to inspire positivity and help others in their journey to personal fulfillment. It’s easier to make changes when you have the support of others going through similar experiences. And even if what you’re going through isn’t the same thing as what I’m going through, I hope we can learn from each other through our different experiences and see things in a new light.
My brother is a big believer in the Dalai Lama’s ways of life… and I’m beginning to understand why. So much so that I even purchased two of his books to read in the coming weeks! To start off my first Tea Talk, I thought I’d share one of his quotes I found on the Internet:
I think really anyone can relate to this quote. Has there ever been a time when someone has really irked you and it just upsets you for the rest of the day or even the week? Or someone bothers you so much that it consumes your every thought? And doesn’t that just feel absolutely terrible! It’s so important to not let other people and their actions and behaviors ruin the way you’re living your life. If you let them get to you, they’ve won. I know this might sound petty to think of it this way, but what better way to make yourself feel good than not let someone else make you feel bad? There’s a few quotes that I love:
“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
“That’s the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good f***ing life.” -Chuck Palahniuk
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -Dalai Lama
So let karma handle revenge. Don’t disturb your own mojo (in the words of Austin Powers) just to get back at someone else. Sacrificing your own happiness to bring down someone else only creates two unhappy people. And in a world that becomes more and more cynical with each passing day, we could all use more happiness. Focus your energies on creating positive experiences for yourself, which will only spread to others around you.
At the end of the day, you are responsible for your own happiness. Other peoples’ actions can cause you to feel happy or bad, but ultimately you are in charge of your happiness. Choose to be happy. Don’t choose to let others determine your happiness level for you. It’s easier said than done, but doing so will only bring you peace in the grand scheme of things.
I’m not a master or pro at this, so I don’t want you, my readers, to think that I practice exactly what I preach. I’m sometimes still bothered when people push my buttons. I still let it affect me. Like I said before, my journey is a work in progress. And there are bumps along the way. But I’m ready to accept that I need to change my thoughts and actions before I can really feel fulfilled and happy in my life.
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What do you think of my first Tea Talk? Are you on the track to changing your life for the better? I’d love to hear about your journey.